“Is there no more to the experience of being a woman than
the ever-present threat of violence?” In the last eighteen months, this
question has been troubling me a great deal. At
Prajnya, while we do other
things, most of our time and energy has always been taken up by gender violence
awareness work. This spills over into my academic and other writing, where everything
seems to default to the fear and reality of violence. Since December 2012, all
things gender equal violence in public discourse and especially media. Reflecting
this, the newly released
Womanifesto
for the upcoming elections
(which I have endorsed too) devotes a great deal of attention to this issue. This
Women’s Day, to do something meaningful meant to talk about solutions to this
reality and to showcase achievement meant to talk to survivors. This is all
terribly important, but as someone who has lobbied for such a change, I am
wondering how much is too much. Is there nothing more to my life experience
than growing up with cautions about going here or there, and being groped on a
bus or having family worry about my dowry?
I know for a fact that in my life, there is a great deal
more. The fear and anticipation of violence are a thread that runs through my
life, but it is like noisy water pipes or a loose plug point—always risky,
always there—but that you get so used to, you live with it. If you survive
electric shock, you find a way to move on. The rest of your waking hours are
spent doing other things—mundane, creative, essential, indulgent. Most women I know have a wide range of
interests.
Even women you call “just housewives” have areas of policy
interest. These women who “don’t work” have to contend with the vagaries of
power and water supply. Many are financial alchemists, taking a fixed wage and
turning it into an elastic resource. They are savings and investment experts,
using a range of methods to put away a little money and multiply a small amount
through informal schemes and make strategic investments in ways they can. “Just
housewives” who “don’t work” have a natural interest in infrastructure policy
and in financial policy issues. Their interests could go well beyond “lights
make a road safe” and “price onions affordably.” But we do not give them the
chance that we are willing to afford their brothers and husbands. Our gendered
assumptions—and in the “our,” I include women—deprive women of voice on these
issues and all of us of the benefit of their insights.
Women are self-employed, run small business and large
businesses, work as professionals and in the informal sector. Their interest in
workplace issues goes well beyond workplace sexual harassment and diversity. We
are concerned about tax—income, service, professional, property and
inheritance—and we have an interest in all of this being rationalised and
transparent. Women care about credit, interest rates and investment incentives,
including infrastructural incentives. Industry and sectoral issues are critical
to women—whether that takes the form of a decision to clear pavement stalls or
the development of an industrial estate.
The freedom movement and the other social movements of the
time offer documentary evidence that women are concerned about political and
social issues. For some, this has been a class obligation—“persons with
privilege must do charity works”—and for some, this is a professional choice.
But if you look closely at the majority of women who walk in those marches and
sit in the rallies of our time, political activity is a political choice. And
interest in politics is not confined to the Women’s Representation Bill and its
predecessors and successors. Some women enjoy discussing the machinations and
manoeuvres of our political class as much as anyone else. Some women have
particular areas—environment or accountability—they practically monitor. As
this current election season shows, women will enter politics when there is an
opening. And when they can’t, they find ways to work in the social and
educational sectors on the same issues. But are women political animals as much
as men are? Certainly!
Women are not just interested in the areas of politics and
policy labelled “home affairs” and “domestic politics.” They are also
interested in military history and military doctrine. They are interested in foreign
policy—in our most important bilateral memberships, in our multilateral
commitments and in the debates surrounding how we should relate to the world.
As international conventions and UN resolutions express a global consensus on
women’s rights and participation, as well as a host of other everyday issues
from immunization to labour conditions, they are stakeholders in these
normative regimes and affected by India’s ratification and
implementation of them.
Cultural policy has always been a realm for “ladies” but
only in the sense that rustling silks and traditional hospitality rituals
constitute how India
plays culture. Women are also however interested in cultural policy in the way
that it expresses national identity and in the consequences of that effort for
citizenship. Cultural policy is also about inclusion and exclusion, about
livelihoods and about lived heritage. Debates about conservation versus
development, and the political deployment of rhetoric about culture, religion
and civilization has an effect on women too.
I don’t ask whether the male bank clerk understands ecology,
heritage or engineering before entertaining his views on Sethusamudram. I don’t
ask whether the chartered accountant understands nuclear physics or
international relations when he talks about the importance of a nuclear
deterrent. The male newspaper editor is an expert on cultural policy on the
first cup of tea and budget writing on the second; I do not challenge his
superior knowledge. The retired general is the best judge of classroom
practices, based on drill experience. But when it comes to their female
counterparts, I raise the bar and shut the sluice-gates. The fact of their
interest and the fact that they are citizens and stake-holders is not enough
for me; I want them to be “qualified.” And the only qualification I will grant
them is on the narrow subject of violence against women.
We have moved from denial that sexual and gender-based
violence happen to essentialising the lives of women to this one reality. What
has been gained by dumping denial may be in danger of being cancelled out as a
result. If the status of women (anywhere) can be defined in terms purely of the
fact of violence, then it can be fixed simply by protecting women from
violence. Once women are protected, their status will automatically improve and
their lives will be perfect.
Now that just sounds wrong. It is wrong.
We make the case that it will take more than a
paternalistic, protectionist culture to create a society free of gender-based
violence. What is that “more”? It is the idea of equal citizenship and equal
rights for everyone. But that applies to every kind of inclusion, and requires an
openness that admits that there could be more to all of us than patriarchal or
other norms dictate. We use the word “inclusion,” which sometimes evokes the
image of someone opening a door and say, it’s alright, you can come in. But the
world we want to walk towards is not one run by right-thinking, benevolent
gate-keepers but one that is already there if we would only adopt the right
lens and expect to see it. This is a world in which we are equal and live in an
interdependent, mutually supportive way. And in this world, there is more to
men than temperaments that need to be mentored into non-violence and more to
women than the experience of violence.
I agree that today’s suspension of denial about violence is
a good thing, and I hope it will not be temporary. My concern is that while we
are fretting and fuming about sexual and gender-based violence, we will reduce
women to nothing more than humans who are especially more vulnerable to
violence—an act of violence in itself. What we really want is a full acknowledgment
of the humanity of women (and other human beings), and as a corollary,
recognition that they are and should be qualified to and engaged with all parts
of public life.
And how does this matter this election season? Quite simply,
when a party wants to prove to me that it cares about gender equality, I don’t
just want to hear a few paternalistic measures and see a few schemes for
protection and support services for violence survivors. It is not even enough
to have a more significant number of women candidates than before; after all,
the baseline is hardly formidable here. What I want is to see women in that
party speak up on substantive issues and with the backing of the party. I would
like to hear domain experts like Meera Sanyal speak about banking policy and I
would like to hear career politicians like Supriya Sule address a range of
policy questions. I would like to read that they are a part of policy
think-tanks on all matters and not just on women, children, the price of onions
and the safety of public spaces. Women care about society and all kinds of
policy, and I want to see the words, deeds and style of political parties and media coverage reflect and respect
that.